Parenthood for Dummies
Being a father is a wild ride. My name is Christopher & these are my observations, theories & comments on life as the dad of my two boys Ripley & Jayden. I write this to air my thoughts & update my friends & family with photos, videos and such like. For everyone else I offer hints and tips on parenting as I learn them. For legal reasons I make no direct reference to my employer or any of my colleagues.
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on with the show...
most recent posts appear first in the list, then proceeding back in time, check "archives" section on left-hand sidebar for earlier posts
Monday, March 28, 2005
Wednesday, March 23, 2005
I was feeling good on the course this morning, things started to click, but this evening I did a practice exam and got 55%. I am going to be f@$?ing depressed if I go through all this seperation anxiety for nothing... Ah well, it aint over yet. Pen keeps putting Rip on the line when I call her, cute.
Tuesday, March 22, 2005
I love to swim, best thing about this course is the pool. Oh yeah, and the FREE snack shop! Hence one of the reasons for the increase in aquatic exercise ;)
Nice concept I suppose, hold a bootcamp style - 1 week residential course to "maximise" your learning potential. Hmm. Designed by single people I imagine. I am still missing my family and I fear it is affecting my concentration. IT is a single man's game, it's hard to enjoy when something better comes along :)
On a training course. I miss Penny terribly, first time away from Ripley, so it is double the pain. I wish I wasn?t such a god damn jess. Other guys were joking over dinner about peace and quiet from the kids, I admit it will be nice to get proper sleep, maybe under the bravado those guys are as lonely as me too.
So Irn Bru, Kitkat & Arnie on channel 5 are my new family now. I cannot wait to see my family again.
Saturday, March 19, 2005
Test picture posting
Testing picture posting from my mobile
There should be a pic... If not then I guess it failed.
Wednesday, March 16, 2005
Sponsor Me Please
I am doing a 20 mile bike ride in aid of the Children's Hospice and other local charities through the Fleet Lions Club. The event is on April 3rd and I am looking for sponsorship.
The Childrens Hospice is a really worth while charity that helps kids who are terminally ill.
If you have a credit card you can donate via on the internet using Paypal for no extra charge here (I will cover personally cover any transfer fees at my end).
Monday, March 14, 2005
Well, we finally did it. We are the proud owners of a Mk 7 Smart Car (Pulse) - (pictured above). I love it! It makes my journey to work far less stressful than in the sports car (which we are selling). It is easy and fun to drive, quick off the mark and corners pretty well. The interior is spacious even for me (a 6 footer) and it has plenty of space in the back for cases, computers and what not. At 65+mpg combined, it is cheap to run too! The best thing is I can park this baby anywhere. Guys hate 'em, girls love 'em (suits me). This smart car compliments our lifestyles perfectly. It is honestly the first car I have owned that I go out for a drive in simply for the fun of driving it.
Saturday, March 12, 2005
Friday, March 11, 2005
The one thing I worry about above everything else is that Rip will grow up to be shy. I strongly believe above all else that social skills are essential in getting on in life. I don't consider myself to be intellectual or particularly academic individual, but what I do have in brains is backed up with an ability to talk to anyone about anything. That is why I have friends, a wife, a job, etc, etc. He seems to be sociable with other babies :) and I have never seen him cry because of being held by someone new. So far so good.
Also, I wonder sometimes, "am I a crap parent?". Then I say to myself - "Everyone must think that", then I realise that crap parents probably justify their crap parenting using the same logic. The reason I have thought that I am a crap parent recently is I feel I am a little bit too exciting with him. I bounce him around and tickle him and he laughs and giggles so much that hiccups usually follow (which he also finds hilarious). I am very very careful with him but sometimes I take him by surprise, go "boo" when he wasn't expecting it, or maybe laugh out loud too close to him. Then my heart sinks as his eyes slowly turn into tight crescents, his chin starts wobbling and his little quiet (real) cry starts, sometimes I can rescue the situation with a hug, sometimes the tears start. Hell, it's not like I am beating him or anything, I know I am being over sensitive, he loves playing with me and gets frustrated if I don't bounce him up and down or give him attention, but then maybe I should treat him more like a baby and less like a little boy.
These points are related, I worry that my playful parenting might make him reclusive. You would think it should bring out the playful and outgoing side of him, but conversely it could do the opposite couldn't it? Seems like a risky experiment in infant psychology if I am wrong. I guess I will just have to stop second guessing every little aspect of my parenting and just get on with it, in which case please disregard everything I just said :) - Paranoid Parent
Thursday, March 10, 2005
Monday, March 07, 2005
Ch ch ch chaaaanges
Hello anonymous internet masses(+ friends & family)
It has been a while since my last update. I have been very busy in my working & home life and haven't had the time to post any updates. "Must try harder" was a familiar comment on my report cards at school.
Spring Clean - Bought myself a fantastic gadget phone that will make it even easier to update my blog, best thing is that I justified this extravagance by raising the money entirely from selling crap from my attic! £400 from stuff I would have chucked out! Fantastic. Feels good. Penny, realising the opportunity to make money of out thin air, is continuing this practice and is helping pay the bills with minimal effort.
Money - I sat down with Pen and worked out a fantastic financial plan that will free me from the weighty shackles of my mortgage in a very short time frame. Just need 4 sticks of dynamite and an AK-47, no.. seriously - I am getting closer to freedom - God I can't wait. I cannot stand the "Buy now pay later" culture we currently live in, every other advert on TV is promoting faster and more efficent ways to get people further in debt, I am determined not to be a part of it.
Fitness - Our dining room door is graced with a colourful chart reminding us that weight loss is a key objective for the next 6 months. <sigh> God I miss Pringles. On the plus side. Both Penny & I have lost - wait for it - 9 lbs each! In a couple of weeks it will be a whole stone at this rate. How? Just eat fruit instead of sweets & cakes, cut down on fatty food (turkey instead of chicken, grilled not fried), eat less white bread & potato, each more salad, try and take 10000 steps in any one day (requires pedometer). Believe me, I feel better for it and it is easy.
As for Rip, I have this overwhelming feeling that if I blink I will miss some part of his development. He laughs and giggles. Picks up objects and passes them from hand to hand - invariably stuffing them in his mouth. He is so close to his first really big milestone - rolling over onto his front. Doesn't sound like much but it is frustrating watching him rocking backwards and forwards and almost making it. Once he gets over he will then work out crawling, the first steps come next, a few months later and my chimney sweeping business will really take off ;)
Rip has now had 2 swimming lessons. Which involves floating him around the local baby pool for an hour, splashing water on his face and dunking him right under. Sounds cruel but he loves it. Hasn't cried once and often pops out of the water with a silly surpised smile on his face.
The Important Things in Life:
As you know, I am a bit of a "heart of my sleeve" type - and I know that can seem fake to people that don't know me. But my family have continued to be fantastic. Dad has visited twice and is very attached to Rip (as Rip is to him). Pen's Mum and Dad are always helping and continue to be invaluable. Mum is never off the phone to me, and Kieron although spending time in hospital is planning a visit as soon as he is well. As for Penny she has been fantastic, she has taken to parenthood far quicker than me. Ripley has vocal moments that would make an Brazilian Howler Monkey jump 3 foot in the air, Penny smiles and gets on with it and I know that her role in our relationship is much more challenging than my daily grind plus she still finds time to do freelance design work!
Also, we made the dramatic decision to sell the sports car, it practically encourages my bad driving so I am going to downgrade to a Smart Fortwo (cheap to run, slow as hell, cool) - hell, if you find yourself fitting a demographic you might as well not do it by half measures - I am all for form over function - I am a dedicated follower of fad yuppie fashions - the only difference between me and everyone else is that I am not deluding myself, in the words of Popeye - "I yam what I yam" - wise words indeed from the pipe smoking spinach junky.